PARENTING: LETTING GO OF PERFECTIONISM

Shelby Groff’s journey into parenthood was not without its challenges. As a new mother, she struggled with postpartum depression, traumatic birth experiences, and the pressure to be a perfect parent. But Groff, a licensed professional counselor, has learned to navigate these difficulties and find a sense of peace. “It’s like learning a new job,” said Groff. “But the job is 24/7. You’re always on call.” As a parent, you must be prepared for anything. However, Groff has come to realize that perfectionism is not the key to successful parenting. In fact, it can be a significant obstacle. “Don’t be afraid to listen to what you think is correct,” said Groff. “Advocate for yourself, advocate for your child, advocate for your partner and just do the best you can, because that’s all you can do.” Perfectionism can lead to burnout and disappointment. Groff’s advice for new parents is to focus on finding a balance between self-care and parenting responsibilities. This means setting boundaries, prioritizing time with your partner, and trusting your instincts. “Trust your gut and let go of perfectionism,” said Groff. “It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being present and responsive to your child’s needs.” Letting go of perfectionism allows you to enjoy the journey and appreciate the small moments. Moreover, Groff emphasizes the importance of communication and empathy in building a strong relationship with your partner. Regular check-ins, active listening, and reciprocal communication can help navigate the challenges of parenthood. “Communication is key,” said Groff. “Be open, communicate what you need, communicate what you’re feeling. Reciprocate by listening. If you don’t have good communication, you’re not listening to each other, the transition is going to be that much harder.” Effective communication helps you stay on the same page and work together as a team. Groff also stresses the importance of building a support network. This can include family, friends, community groups, and professional resources like postpartum nurses and lactation consultants. “I don’t think people even realize that we do have parenting classes available in this area sometimes,” said Kristie Smith, a postpartum nurse. “There are so many resources available but I don’t think they’re widely shared.”

Seeking support from others can help you navigate the challenges of parenthood

In addition to these resources, there are many organizations and programs available to support new parents. These include:
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* Richland Pregnancy Services: provides pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, parenting classes, and other forms of support
* OhioHealth Mansfield: offers a free weekly breastfeeding group and lactation support
* Help Me Grow: a program that supports pregenant women, caregivers with new babies, and families whose young children have developmental delays or disabilities
* WIC: a nutrition education program for pregnant women, women who have a baby less than six months old, breastfeeding mothers, and infants and children up to 5 years old
* SNAP (Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program): helps eligible low-income Ohioans stretch their food budgets and buy healthy food
* Heartbeat of Morrow County: provides free confidential pregnancy tests, parenting classes, supplies, prenatal peer counseling, and additional resources
* Head Start and Early Head Start: provides free preschool and early education for income children ages birth to five years old and their families
* Third Street Family Health Services: offers community health workers who can provide guidance on various community resources
* Richland Public Health: offers free vaccination clinics and home visits
* First Call 211: a free, confidential community service that can help you find local resources for your specific situation

By seeking support from others and utilizing these resources, new parents can navigate the challenges of parenthood and find a sense of peace and fulfillment. As Groff said, “Parenting is not for the weak, but it’s also the greatest adventure.” With the right mindset and support, you can navigate the ups and downs of parenthood and create a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life for your child.